Conversations with Arundada. (February 7, 2017)
Sharing a conversation that I had with Arundada. I'm going to continue our conversations every time i meet him.
Arundada : On hearing of Kinnari giving birth to a baby girl, I am reminded of this song
Song 1 :
Kinnar Gandharva devtaao ki baat nahi
Maanav se maanav ka mukt milan chaahiye
(Translation : We are not talking about divinity, religion, gods or angels. All that is needed is that a human can meet his brethren without any barriers)
Chinta ki baat nahi saadhak ke paas agar aarti samet sugandh pooja ka thaal na ho
Chinta ki baat nahi vandana ke geet na ho, chinta ki baat nahi sumano ke mala na ho
Devta bhi apna pratibimb jahan dekh sake, saadhak ki anjali mein ashru suman chaahiye
Manav se manav ka mukt milan chaahiye
(Translation : A true seeker does not need to be equipped with incense or other ritual offerings for his prayers
No cause for worry, if the seeker does not have flowers or even a prayer to offer
What is needed are tears of compassion that reflect divinity in the eyes of the seeker... the tears that lead him to meet his brethren without any barriers)
Question : How do we know if the tears that we offer are pure or not?
Arundada : So long as the tears are not inspired by your individual interest. If you weep after making a loss in business, or on your failures, or a dear one's death, then it does not count. But if you tear up at the Lord's altar, then its pure. Tears of repentance are pure, but those of selfishness are not.
Question : What's the next step, after tears of repentence?
Arundada : The mistake should not repeat itself. If you repeat the mistake, and also repent each time, even that is preferable to not repenting at all.
Question : Some people suffer and make mistakes repeatedly because of their nature - say, anger causes a lot of damage to some.
Arundada : Anger does not cause as much harm as grudge. Anger comes and goes, but aversion is sticky - it stays. Do not give much importance to your anger. If you do, then the habit (of anger) will strengthen. One should pursue liberation from this polarity of aversion and craving - they harm us equally. If we grudge someone, I am not so sure if our grudge will harm the person we grudge but we will harm ourselves for certain
Question : I nurse an aversion for a lot of people, especially those who derive pleasure out of other's miseries. How to deal with such people?
Arundada : You should nurture love for (even) such people
Question : But such people do not offer any "jai shri krishna' window
Arundada : I took almost 8-10 days to find the 'jai shri krishna' window. My neighbour has suffered a brain hemorrhage and is in hospital currently, I had gone to see him yesterday. Although he may not have even known that I was there, I prayed for his recovery. I do not know if these subtle vibrations even reach him. But that does not matter - our job is to offer a prayerful heart.
Question : Until the time I encounter a "jai shri krishna" window, how do I behave with that person
Arundada : Anger, grudge and negative emotions weaken us. For starts, holding a sincere intention that I wish good for this person is adequate. We may not even be able to behave well, but we can wish well and offer our noble thoughts.
In the end, Arundada sang one more song
Song 2 :
Mere piya mein kachhu nahi jaanu
Chup chup mein toh chaah rahi
(Translation : My beloved, I know of nothing. All I know is to love in silence)
Mere piya tum kitne suhaavan
Tum barso gir meha saavan
Mein toh chup chup naah rahi
Mein toh chup chup chaah rahi
(Translation : My beloved, you are beauty incarnate. In the torrent of your love, I am wordlessly bathing. All I know is to love in silence)